Sally & Zach
We teach this work from inside a real marriage.
We've been together for over twenty years. We have two kids. And we coach couples through the hardest and most rewarding parts of their intimate relationships.
Between us, we have over three decades of coaching experience. We've worked with hundreds of couples - from California to New York to Europe and the Middle East. We've written 80+ articles for the Aspen Daily News in our weekly column, "Modern Love." And we've spent the better part of our careers studying what actually makes relationships work - not the idealized version, but the real, messy, complicated, beautiful version.
We didn't start here because we had it all figured out. We started here because we didn't.
Like most couples, we came into our relationship carrying subconscious beliefs about love that we'd never examined. We inherited cultural narratives about what marriage was supposed to look like that didn't match our reality. We had the same recurring fights. We watched desire fluctuate. We struggled with transparency. We learned - sometimes the hard way - that love is not something you find and keep. It's something you build and rebuild, consciously, over and over again.
The methodology we teach isn't something we invented in a classroom. It's something we've lived. We developed it through our own marriage, refined it through decades of coaching other couples, and pressure-tested it against every kind of relationship challenge you can imagine.
We practice every single tool we teach. The Narrative Audit. The Evidence Journal. The Think It Three Times Rule. The Unsaid List. The Four Buckets. The Resolution Conversation. The Conscious Sexual Agreement. These aren't concepts to us. They're how we live.
